BELLEVILLE – For 20-year old Joyia Moggridge, a first-year Police Foundations student, this semester's cost of living has made her consider bailing on her dream.
College students are often low on cash, having to rely on borrowed or donated funds to pay for living expenses and tuition fees. Joyia explained her dire financial situation and how a fellow student helped her out.
Linda Buttery-Sims, a mature student in her first-year of Community and Justice Studies at Loyalist College took the opportunity to help Moggridge complete the semester with food in her fridge.
"I am basically relying on the Ontario Student Assistance program. And this semester it's the 40% versus the 60% (the division of money between semesters) and I didn't get enough to cover tuition and residence so there was no way I was getting books or food or anything like that, she got me a meal plan and my books this semester."
Buttery-Sims explained that her father taught her that caring for others was important, she said he always told her this quote growing up: "Treat people the way you want to be treated, everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time."
Buttery-Sims explained that Moggridge was having difficulty with her financial situation due to family related problems which was something she related to and understood.
"We just got talking and she told me a little about herself and I could really relate to her situation, so I told her you know what, you got to talk about it, there are resources at the school you have to tap into and keep plugging at it; don't give up."
Buttery-Sims said that she knew Moggridge didn't have enough food or money to get through to the end of the semester.
"I knew she didn't, so I'd already gone through my mom's pantry because we had to put her into a retirement home so I got a pile of groceries and took them over for her."
Moggridge was grateful for the help even after modestly trying to deny needing it at first.
"I did try and tell her many times not to, that I would figure stuff out, but her and her husband are pretty persistent."
Buttery-Sims said that her and her husband are believers in karma.
"You treat others the way you wish to be treated," she said.
"I have two kids who are grown and on their own and married and have kids... there were people who helped my son along the way because he went through a bad time, but he had friends that helped him along the way so it's just kind of pay back, you just have to keep the jar filled, right?"
"It takes a village to raise a child, and it took a village to raise my two kids," she said.
"I was a single mom for quite awhile, my brother pitched in and my mom pitched in, my sister and her husband, the neighbours became surrogate grandparents to her and to my son."
Buttery-Sim explained that the reason she's so proud of her kids today is because they had support.
"They had a safety net, it was the family the neighbours, the friends, and it took all of those people's influence to create the adults they are now and I'm quite proud of who they turned out to be... so if I can have that influence on somebody else's life so be it."
Buttery-Sims' has given a gift she says is simply humanity and ethics. Moggridge says she has no more concerns about completing the semester.
"I don't have to worry about food... any money I get I can put into my school so I don't do something bad. I don't have to worry so much."